Social media has become a real problem for some people. Social media has the power to suck us of our blessings and instead put out focus on what we don’t have, what we aren’t doing, and generally how unhappy our lives really are. Instead of seeing the reality of some people’s lives, we see the polish, perfected, and filtered “highlight reel” of people’s lives. The best of the best in people’s lives.
The silly part about it all is that the very person you may be envying their life on social media, may indeed have the same feelings towards you! Here’s an example, two women (who are now friends) both admitted to envying one another via social media when they first met. One was a stay at home mom and the other a career mom. The stay at home mom envied the career mom’s ability to experience the world on a daily basis, not keep her hair in a ponytail, have conversations with adults, and be able to experience eating out on a daily basis. While the career mom envied the stay at home mom’s ability to spend time with her children, do fun Pinterest worthy projects with her kids, and cook Martha Stewart worthy meals for her family. How is that for ironic?
So why do we let ourselves fall for these comparisons? Why do we let envy into our lives? Pastor Craig of Lifechurch said this great quote, “Envy is resenting God’s goodness in someone else’s life and ignoring God’s goodness in your own life.” The solution? Cultivate gratitude. Break the cycle of envy and instead truly express gratitude and happiness for the blessings that are happening in your friend’s lives whether it be on social media or not on social media.
I like to think that I keep a healthy dose of reality here on this blog. At least that’s what a few people have told me. And I also like to think that keeping a healthy dose of reality is a powerful thing for bloggers. It gives us a common bond and allows people to come out and say “hey I struggle with that too.” It’s okay to admit we aren’t perfect.
I came across this awesome article in which the author shares some of his “Insta-Bullshit” moments. I died laughing at these, he did a great job of really hitting the point home that the reality of social media isn’t at all what it seems. People can portray whoever they want to be, they can pretend to be whoever they want to be. People who may be living seemingly perfect lives on social media may be deeply hurting or having a marriage that is falling apart.
So in light of exposing reality versus this perfect highlight reel we see in social media, I want to present you with some of my Insta-Bullshit moments. The truth behind many of the polished photos I share on Instagram.